Creating Change in Our Lives

Recently I received a beautiful message from my angels.  They taught me that there are only two ways to change things in our lives:  death or birth.

They went on to explain that all of us go through times in our lives when it seems like everything is changing. Or we run up against times in our lives when everything needs to change.  Relationships end, jobs come and go, children grow up, or we need to move to a new city.  During these times, we have a clear and distinct choice, we can either pull out our sword, start swinging destructively and chop portions of our life to pieces, or we can choose re-birth. 

Re-birth takes longer.  It can be more painful.  It can be more challenging and cause us to look at ourselves in depth.  It requires patience.

Death, on the other hand, is immediate, but it is also permanent.  There is no going back and killing off relationships or situations in our lives can cause a ripple effect of destruction.  It can leave other people deeply hurt and confused.  There is the expression "burning bridges" and this is what my angels were talking about: complete destruction instead of transformation and re-birth.

Re-birthing ourselves in our lives can be tough at first, yet it has the most powerful and beautiful rewards.  We become whole new people.  We begin a whole new life.  In fact, we earn the ability to "give life" to every corner of our lives.  This is called Inspiration, which means: to breath life into a relationship, and idea or a situation.

But burning bridges leaves nothing but ashes and there is a high price to pay for leaving people hurt and feeling destroyed.

The angels also told me about giving life to Love so that Love gives Life to you.  Choose the path of Love.  Sure it can be tougher sometimes, yet it opens up possibilities instead of crushing them.  There might not be immediate gratification, but there will be miracles. 

And if you find yourself in the place of needing to let go of a relationship or a situation, consider doing it with Love and grace.  Give everyone involved dignity instead of pain.  Proverbial blood is not the pathway to God, only Love lines that road.

Digesting Emotions

My 13 year old son has been going through a lot of change and turmoil in his life.  He is entering the age of trying to figure out how to navigate through tough emotions and challenging situations.  Someone close to him suggested that it is bad to talk about his emotions.  This confused him.  He was upset with me because I have always taught him that talking about emotions and feelings is how we process and heal.  I told him the contrary was true, that by avoiding emotions, they get stuffed down inside our body and this causes sickness and depression. 

I sat my son down and told him that talking about our feelings is healthy.  I told him that the way we heal is through conversation.  Conversation is how we connect to those we love and is a powerful way to let another person know that we care about him or her.  Once we speak our thoughts and feelings into the Universe, then we have room to either embrace them or transform them.  This process does not have to be scary or bad.  In fact, it is empowering and full of self-care.  The key here is not to "fear" our emotions.  Even the tough or uncomfortable emotions and feelings need to be digested and understood in order to give us the freedom to move forward, lest we get stuck in one particular emotion and end up wallowing in it for days, months or even years.  True pain comes from not feeling empowered within ourselves and not giving ourselves the space to feel.