My 13 year old son has been going through a lot of change and turmoil in his life. He is entering the age of trying to figure out how to navigate through tough emotions and challenging situations. Someone close to him suggested that it is bad to talk about his emotions. This confused him. He was upset with me because I have always taught him that talking about emotions and feelings is how we process and heal. I told him the contrary was true, that by avoiding emotions, they get stuffed down inside our body and this causes sickness and depression.
I sat my son down and told him that talking about our feelings is healthy. I told him that the way we heal is through conversation. Conversation is how we connect to those we love and is a powerful way to let another person know that we care about him or her. Once we speak our thoughts and feelings into the Universe, then we have room to either embrace them or transform them. This process does not have to be scary or bad. In fact, it is empowering and full of self-care. The key here is not to "fear" our emotions. Even the tough or uncomfortable emotions and feelings need to be digested and understood in order to give us the freedom to move forward, lest we get stuck in one particular emotion and end up wallowing in it for days, months or even years. True pain comes from not feeling empowered within ourselves and not giving ourselves the space to feel.
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